ASTAGFIRULLAH "Pak Ustadz Tolong Hentikan, Saya Sudah Tidak Tahan Lagi"

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Semboyan Hidup - Tahun 2010, saya melakukan survey dengan bertanya kepada beberap perempuan bekerja. Pertanyaan saya sangat sederhana, “Bu, bagaimana perasaan ibu dengan kondisi ibu bekerja saat ini, lebih merasa cukup dengan suami saja bekerja atau merasa lebih cukup dengan ibu ikut bekerja ?

90% perempuan bekerja menjawab, “Saya merasa cukup dengan hanya suami saja yang bekerja ketimbang saat ini saya ikut bekerja.”

Para istri yang saya survei itu mengaku justru dengan dirinya bekerja, utang keluarga justru bertambah, padahal niat awalnya agar utang suami tidak bertambah parah. Dulu semua yang diinginkan selalu bisa terpenuhi tapi dengan ikut bekerja menjadi selalu kurang, tidak ada yang cukup.

Setelah para istri ini curhat tentang kondisinya, lalu saya bertanya kepada, “Ibu tahu tidak penyebab mengapa dulu saat suami ibu yang bekerja semuanya tercukupi dan sekarang ibu bekerja justru selalu kurang ?”

Ibu-ibu itu menggeleng. Mereka hanya heran harusnya dengan ikut bekerja kebutuhan rumah tangga menjadi lebih dari cukup.

Saya sampaikan begini kepada ibu-ibu itu :

Keberkahan rezki ibu telah hilang, ibu-ibu tahu mengapa hilang ? Begini, dulu saat suami ibu saja yang bekerja ibu masih sempat mengurus anak-anak berangkat sekolah. Ibu masih sempat membangunkan suami untuk shalat malam. Ibu masih sempat membuatkan sarapan untuknya.

Dan ketika suami ibu pulang kerja, ibu sudah cantik berdandan rapi untuk menghilangkan kelelahan suami ibu sore itu. Ibu masak yang terenak untuk suami dan masih sempat membacakan dongeng untuk anak-anak ketika akan tidur dan masih “fresh” saat suami ibu mengajak bercinta.

Tapi saat ibu bekerja saat ini, ibu lebih awal kan berangkat dari suami? Karena ibu masuk jam 7 pagi karena khawatir terlambat dan jauh ibu berangkat jam 5.30 padahal barangkali suami baru saja mandi. Anak-anak belum terurus baju sekolahnya, bahkan bisa saja di antara mereka nggak ada yang sarapan karena Ibu lupa menyediakan. Iya kan bu ?’ Kata saya kepada mereka.

Di antara ibu-ibu yang bekerja ini mulai menangis. Saya meminta izin untuk meneruskan taujih di sore itu.

“Dan ketika suami ibu pulang, ibu belum pulangkan karena ibu diminta lembur oleh boss ibu di pabrik. Ketika suami sudah ada di rumah jam 5 sore, ibu masih berkutat dengan pekerjaan sampai jam 8 malam. Suami ibu bingung ke mana dia mengadukan ceritanya hari itu dia mencari nafkah. Anak-anak ibu belum mandi bahkan bisa saja di antara mereka ada yang tidak shalat Maghrib, karena tidak ada yang mengingatkannya. Kemudian mau makan akhirnya makan seadanya, hanya masak mie dan telur karena hanya itu yang mereka mampu masak.

Suami ibu hanya makan itu bahkan hampir tiap malam, sedangkan ibu baru pulang jam 9 sampai di rumah di saat anak-anak ibu sudah lelah karena banyak bermain, bahkan di antara mereka masih ada yang bau karena nggak mandi. Suami ibu terkapar tertidur karena kelelahan, karena suami ibu menunggu kedatangan ibu. Kondisi ibu juga lelah, sangat lelah bahkan, ibu bahkan berbulan-bulan tidak bisa berhubungan intim dengan suami karena kelelahan….”

Ibu bekerja untuk menambah keuangan keluarga tapi ibu kehilangan banyak hal. Hal-hal yang pokok menjadi tidak selesai. Hal-hal yang ibu kerjakan di pabrik juga tidak maksimal karena hati ibu sedih tidak punya kesempatan mengurus suami dan anak-anak. Pakaian suami dan anak-anak kumal, kuku anak-anak panjang, rambut anak-anak gondrong dan tak terurus.

Ibu-ibu itu semakin kencang menangisnya, di antara mereka mengatakan “Hentikan ustadz, aku tak tahan lagi, hentikan”, sang ibu itu memeluk teman yang di sebelahnya dan menangis.

Sore itu saya berusaha menyampaikan kewajiban saya sebagai dai. Katakan yang benar itu walaupun harus membuat hati sedih. Di penutup saya menyampaikan, “Tidak ada larangan buat ibu bekerja dengan satu syarat, tugas pokok ibu tidak ada masalah, tidak ada hak-hak suami dan anak-anak yang berkurang yang dapat menyebabkan ketidak berkahan uang yang ibu dapatkan dari bekerja. Pastikan itu semua tidak ada masalah dan bekerjalah setelah itu”

Adzan Maghrib sore itu menghentikan ceramah saya di sela tangis ibu-ibu yang ingin segera pulang untuk bertemu dengan suami dan anak-anak mereka.

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10 Easy Steps to Succeed in Your Online Classes

Congratulations Youve made up our minds to pursue your upper schooling, and doing so online is how to pass if you have an interest in a versatile, studentcentered educating manner. Studying online permits you to pursue different pursuits and attend to different responsibilities whilst nonetheless operating your method towards some extent. However, it will now and again imply that its clean to get distracted. Here are 10 clean steps to verify luck on your online categories.

Connect together with your instructors once conceivable. Even in case you are doing smartly within the category, its extraordinarily vital to increase a rapport together with your trainer. When you do that early on, you temporarily understand what the priorities are within the route, what expectancies the professor has of you and youre going to be motivated to prevail, surer of whats forward and higher ready to do smartly with the impending subject material.

Valuable questions to invite your trainer come with the next

How versatile are you with time limits How versatile are you with grownup freshmen What applied sciences do you employ within the route How to be had are you through e mail and different sorts of verbal exchange How do you put up an internet neighborhood and what are the expectancies for participation in it In addition, since instructors are to be had to lend a hand all over the classes, its all the time just right to have had private touch with the trainer early on. This method, when you wish to have lend a hand, its more straightforward to achieve out and get the help you wish to have.

Confirm the technical necessities of the route. Online categories can also be very advisable for college kids with busy schedules, however provided that they are able to simply get right of entry to the fabrics. It is vital to obviously perceive what the technical necessities are. So, ahead of the route begins or as quickly thereafter as conceivable, youll want to test that your pc will paintings with the entire online equipment, and that you understand how to navigate them. This will be sure that you dont must spend time all the way through the route attempting to determine the generation.

three. Create a time table and stick with it. Quality online instructors create classes which might be clean to navigate and feature transparent expectancies. Having that roughly easytodealwith framework in position will make learning and succeeding that a lot more straightforward. However, although the framework and necessities of your category arent as transparent, youll create a time table and construction, which is able to very much fortify your probabilities of luck within the route. Using equipment equivalent to Google Calendar is a good way to start out. Knowing how your weeks and months glance and scheduling blocks of analysis time for each and every activity or module will will let you stick with a time table.

four. Ask questionsall the time. When you dont perceive, ask questions. When you do perceive, ask additional questions. Instructors recognize scholars who take part, and if theres a participation or dialogue part a part of the grade, then asking high quality questions is helping guarantee your grade on this space. Even if there isnt a participation part, its all the time helpful to invite inquiries to remember to perceive the fabric and are transparent on what is needed of you.

five. Be arrangedand keep arranged. Students whore taking conventional, campusbased classes most often have a constant time table to observe each and every week, through which study room instruction is adopted through assignments out of doors the category. However, for online classes, scholars will have to search out their very own techniques to stick on most sensible in their paintings. It is crucial that you just be arranged from the start of the semester with the intention to achieve success in an internet route. For instance mark task due dates on your calendar, discover a submitting machine for each online subject material and bodily subject material that is helping you stay monitor of the whole lot simply, and shed light on find out about schedules that duvet sections of the route one by one so youve got an arranged tactic to protecting the semesters subject material as you pass alongside.

Have a blank, quiet, and constant workspace. One factor online and inclass classes have in not unusual is that scholars all the time want a spot to review or whole assignments this is blank, quiet, and constant. You can select the place that is for youwhether or not its at a espresso store, a college library, a devoted place of business, or at house. Wherever you select to review and whole assignments, you must make it a constant location that doesnt have out of doors distractions. It is basically key that where is quiet and lets you focal point in your paintings with out distractions.
Do no longer procrastinate. Successful distance freshmen hardly procrastinate. They dont do away with assignments or wait till the final second to write down their papers. Successful online scholars experience freedoms that come with operating at their very own tempo and the facility to finish their paintings in as a lot time because it takes them. On the opposite hand, they know that finishing their assignments is best performed early and on time cramming merely doesnt paintings, and it doesnt will let you retain knowledge longterm. Get began early on getting a success.

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Connect together with your friends. Establishing sturdy connections with friends and professors is a very powerful facet of tutorial luck, in addition to skilled development. One of essentially the most rewarding reports in schooling is finding out thru collaboration. Forming significant relationships together with your friends and professors can can help you be told extra, keep motivated, and feature an outlet to specific your personal working out of subject material. So, keep attached thru message forums, chat rooms, e mail, and different digital assets. And take note lots of the other people you meet in faculty shall be conceivable process assets down the road so determine connections and keep in contact

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