ALHAMDULILLAH..!! Dosa Berguguran Dengan Memegang Tangan Istri

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Sebuah keluarga bisa barakah jika di dalamnya ada sakinah. Mereka merasakan ketenteraman. Dalam keadaan diguncang kesulitan atau dikarunia kesuksesan, suami dan istri merasakan ketenteraman saat berdekatan. Ketika suami datang dengan wajah kusam berlipat-lipat, istri memberi sambutan hangat besemangat. Wajahnya tetap teduh dan penuh perhatian sehingga suami semakin sayang.

Jika Anda mempunyai istri demikian, bersyukurlah. Anda sudah mendapatkan kunci kebahagiaan. “Tiga kunci kebahagiaan seorang laki-laki adalah istri shalihah yang jika dipandang membuatmu semakin sayang dan jika kamu pergi membuatmu merasa aman, dia bisa menjaga kehormatanmu, dirinya dan hartamu; kendaraan yang baik yang bisa mengantar ke mana kamu pergi; dan rumah yang damai yang penuh kasih sayang.

Tiga perkara yang membuatnya sengsara adalah istri yang tidak membuatmu bahagia jika dipandang dan tidak bisa menjaga lidahnya juga tidak mem-buatmu merasa aman jika kamu pergi karena tidak bisa men-jaga kehormatan diri dan hartamu; kendaraan rusak yang jika dipakai hanya membuatmu merasa lelah namun jika kamu tinggalkan tidak bisa mengantarmu pergi; dan rumah yang sempit yang tidak kamu temukan kedamaian di dalamnya.”

Kalau keluarga Anda penuh barakah dan Allah melimpahkan barakah atas keluarga Anda, maka Anda akan mendapati rumah tangga yang diliputi oleh mawaddah wa rahmah (ketulusan cinta dan kasih-sayang). Kalau suami resah, ada pangkuan istri yang siap merengkuh dengan segenap pera-saannya. Kalau istri gelisah, ada suami yang siap menampung airmata dengan dekapan hangat di dada, serta usapan tangan yang memberi ketenteraman dan perlindungan.

Tanpa adanya sakinah, mawaddah wa rahmah, keluarga sulit mencapai barakah dan penuh dengan kebarakahan. Suami-istri tidak bisa saling mencurahkan kasih-sayang secara penuh. Mereka tidak bisa saling menerima, mempercayai dan memaafkan kekurangan-kekurangan, padahal setiap ki-ta selalu punya kekurangan. Di sini keluarga dipenuhi oleh keluh-kesah dan kekecewaan

Bukan oleh keadaan ekonomi, melainkan oleh ketidakpuasan terhadap teman hidupnya beserta keluarganya. Sehingga interaksi antar keduanya menjadi kering, sangat periferal. Bukan dari hati ke hati, sehingga saling merindukan. Pergi tiga hari saja tidak ditunggu-tunggu kedatangannya. Apalagi sekadar terlambat pulang satu atau dua jam.

Dalam keadaan yang demikian, keluarga tidak menjadi tempat terbaik untuk membesarkan anak dan menumbuh-kan kekuatan jiwa mereka. Rumah menjadi tempat yang sempit, sehingga anak-anak dan suami tidak menemukan kedamaian di dalamnya. Meskipun secara fisik, rumah cukup besar dan megah.

Jadi, jika Anda mendo’akan barakah, insya-Allah Anda juga mendo’akan sakinah, mawaddah wa rahmah bagi keluarga yang akan dibangun oleh pengantin baru itu.

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juga mendo’akan mereka mendapatkan keturunan yang barakah. Biar anak banyak asal barakah, sungguh sangat alhamdulillah.

Mendo’akan barakah sama seperti menyuruh shalat. Kalau Anda menyuruh saya melakukan shalat, berarti Anda juga menyuruh saya untuk berwudhu atau malah mandi jinabah jika saya sedang berhadas besar. Sebab, tidak bisa saya melakukan shalat kalau saya berhadas.

Kalau Anda menganjurkan saya shalat dengan khusyuk dan tenang, berarti Anda juga menganjurkan saya menghi-langkan perintang-perintang ketenangan. Anda tetap bisa shalat, tetapi ketika isya’ itu perut Anda melilit-lilit shalat Anda tidak bisa tenang. Karena itu makanlah lebih dulu. Semoga shalat Anda lebih sempurna.

Tetapi kalau Anda menyuruh seseorang mandi, tidak secara otomatis menyuruh seseorang itu shalat. Begitu juga kalau Anda mendo’akan banyak anak, belum tentu barakah. Malah anak bisa menjadi fitnah yang menyusahkan orangtua dunia akhirat.

Ini tidak berarti Anda tidak boleh meraih kesenangan dan bercanda dengan anak istri. Malah sebagaiman ditunjukkan di awal tulisan ini, kita banyak ditunjukkan dan “diperintahkan” untuk memperoleh kesenangan-kesenangan itu. Bahkan, berjima’ pun bernilai ibadah.

Kalau Anda berhubungan intim, Anda akan mendapat pahala shalat Dhuha. Kalau Anda meremas-remas jemari istri dengan remasan sayang, dosa-dosa Anda berdua berguguran. Kalau Anda menyenangkan istri sehingga hatinya bahagia dan diliputi suka cita, Anda hampir-hampir sama dengan menangis karena takut kepada Allah. SubhanaLlah. Maha Suci Allah. Ia memberi keindahan. Ia juga memberi pahala dan ridha-Nya.

“Barangsiapa menggembirakan hati seorang wanita (istri), “kata Rasulullah Saw., ” seakan-akan menangis karena takut kepada Allah. Barangsiapa menangis karena takut ke-pada Allah, maka Allah mengharamkan tubuhnya dari neraka.”

“Sesungguhnya ketika seorang suami memperhatikan istrinya dan istrinya memperhatikan suaminya,” kata Nabi Saw. menjelaskan, “maka Allah memperhatikan mereka berdua dengan perhatian penuh rahmat. Manakala suaminya merengkuh telapak tangannya (diremas-remas), maka bergu-guranlah dosa-dosa suami-istri itu dari sela-sela jari-jema-rinya.” (Diriwayatkan Maisarah bin Ali dari Ar-Rafi’ dari Abu Sa’id Al-Khudzri R.A.).

Bahkan, pahala yang didapatkan ketika bersetubuh de-ngan istri bisa mencapai tingkat pahala mati terbunuh dalam perang di jalan Allah. Nabi kita Muhammad al- ma’shum bersabda, “Sesungguhnya seorang suami yang mencampuri istrinya, maka pencampurannya (jima’) itu dicatat memperoleh pahala seperti pahala anak lelaki yang berperang di jalan Allah lalu terbunuh.”

Mengenai hadis yang disebut terakhir ini, saya tidak menemukan keterangan lebih lanjut. Tetapi dari berbagai hadis tentang jima’ dan bercumbu, kita mendapati bahwa ke-duanya merupakan sesuatu yang dihormati dan bagi yang melakukannya secara sah, Allah memberi pahala yang besar. Bahkan, orang yang meninggalkan jima’ bisa “keluar dari Islam” (tidak termasuk ummat Muhammad) manakala tindakannya menyebabkan suami atau istri mengalami pen-deritaan.

Wallahu A’lam bishawab.

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10 Easy Steps to Succeed in Your Online Classes

Congratulations Youve made up our minds to pursue your upper schooling, and doing so online is how to pass if you have an interest in a versatile, studentcentered educating manner. Studying online permits you to pursue different pursuits and attend to different responsibilities whilst nonetheless operating your method towards some extent. However, it will now and again imply that its clean to get distracted. Here are 10 clean steps to verify luck on your online categories.

Connect together with your instructors once conceivable. Even in case you are doing smartly within the category, its extraordinarily vital to increase a rapport together with your trainer. When you do that early on, you temporarily understand what the priorities are within the route, what expectancies the professor has of you and youre going to be motivated to prevail, surer of whats forward and higher ready to do smartly with the impending subject material.

Valuable questions to invite your trainer come with the next

How versatile are you with time limits How versatile are you with grownup freshmen What applied sciences do you employ within the route How to be had are you through e mail and different sorts of verbal exchange How do you put up an internet neighborhood and what are the expectancies for participation in it In addition, since instructors are to be had to lend a hand all over the classes, its all the time just right to have had private touch with the trainer early on. This method, when you wish to have lend a hand, its more straightforward to achieve out and get the help you wish to have.

Confirm the technical necessities of the route. Online categories can also be very advisable for college kids with busy schedules, however provided that they are able to simply get right of entry to the fabrics. It is vital to obviously perceive what the technical necessities are. So, ahead of the route begins or as quickly thereafter as conceivable, youll want to test that your pc will paintings with the entire online equipment, and that you understand how to navigate them. This will be sure that you dont must spend time all the way through the route attempting to determine the generation.

three. Create a time table and stick with it. Quality online instructors create classes which might be clean to navigate and feature transparent expectancies. Having that roughly easytodealwith framework in position will make learning and succeeding that a lot more straightforward. However, although the framework and necessities of your category arent as transparent, youll create a time table and construction, which is able to very much fortify your probabilities of luck within the route. Using equipment equivalent to Google Calendar is a good way to start out. Knowing how your weeks and months glance and scheduling blocks of analysis time for each and every activity or module will will let you stick with a time table.

four. Ask questionsall the time. When you dont perceive, ask questions. When you do perceive, ask additional questions. Instructors recognize scholars who take part, and if theres a participation or dialogue part a part of the grade, then asking high quality questions is helping guarantee your grade on this space. Even if there isnt a participation part, its all the time helpful to invite inquiries to remember to perceive the fabric and are transparent on what is needed of you.

five. Be arrangedand keep arranged. Students whore taking conventional, campusbased classes most often have a constant time table to observe each and every week, through which study room instruction is adopted through assignments out of doors the category. However, for online classes, scholars will have to search out their very own techniques to stick on most sensible in their paintings. It is crucial that you just be arranged from the start of the semester with the intention to achieve success in an internet route. For instance mark task due dates on your calendar, discover a submitting machine for each online subject material and bodily subject material that is helping you stay monitor of the whole lot simply, and shed light on find out about schedules that duvet sections of the route one by one so youve got an arranged tactic to protecting the semesters subject material as you pass alongside.

Have a blank, quiet, and constant workspace. One factor online and inclass classes have in not unusual is that scholars all the time want a spot to review or whole assignments this is blank, quiet, and constant. You can select the place that is for youwhether or not its at a espresso store, a college library, a devoted place of business, or at house. Wherever you select to review and whole assignments, you must make it a constant location that doesnt have out of doors distractions. It is basically key that where is quiet and lets you focal point in your paintings with out distractions.
Do no longer procrastinate. Successful distance freshmen hardly procrastinate. They dont do away with assignments or wait till the final second to write down their papers. Successful online scholars experience freedoms that come with operating at their very own tempo and the facility to finish their paintings in as a lot time because it takes them. On the opposite hand, they know that finishing their assignments is best performed early and on time cramming merely doesnt paintings, and it doesnt will let you retain knowledge longterm. Get began early on getting a success.

eight. Work in your studying comprehension. Successful distance freshmen generally tend to have just right studying comprehension abilities. Most conventional, campusbased scholars concentrate to lectures and take notes, and a few online classes additionally require this. However, the vast majority of distance freshmen are anticipated to grasp subject material thru a large amount of studying. Although far finding out classes be offering video recordings and audio clips, maximum systems require scholars to hide and grasp a considerable amount of written knowledge. If it is a problem for you, it could be very useful to first sign up in a studying comprehension route there are lots of assets online that will help you do that. This ability by myself could make a huge distinction on your luck.

nine. Establish and admire routines that be just right for you. If, for instance, youre employed best within the morning or in brief bursts, then set find out about routines that can help you find out about within the prelunch hours when your mind is contemporary. If, then again, you do best through learning at evening or at the weekends when youll devote nightowl hours or longer blocks in your learning, then make it some degree to take action. Consider how and whilst you paintings best, and enforce a find out about plan that respects the routines that be just right for you.

Connect together with your friends. Establishing sturdy connections with friends and professors is a very powerful facet of tutorial luck, in addition to skilled development. One of essentially the most rewarding reports in schooling is finding out thru collaboration. Forming significant relationships together with your friends and professors can can help you be told extra, keep motivated, and feature an outlet to specific your personal working out of subject material. So, keep attached thru message forums, chat rooms, e mail, and different digital assets. And take note lots of the other people you meet in faculty shall be conceivable process assets down the road so determine connections and keep in contact

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